Order invitations only when you have confirmation from your wedding and reception sites. Note the time of the reception on the receptions cards in the event of an extended lag in time between the wedding and reception beyond the normal transit time needed between sites.nnA broad range of prices is available among the different styles of invitations, but the price of comparable invitations varies little from store to store. Most stores require a 50% deposit when ordering, with the balance to be paid at delivery.nnIt is wise to order about 5 percent more invitations than needed to cover any mistakes or forgotten people.nnHow to Write Wedding InvitationsnnAt the time you order the invitations, have the correct form for the names of the persons giving the wedding, the full names of the bride and groom, and the time, date, and location of the ceremony. Do you want a general idea of how to write wedding invitations? Look below.nnIf the wedding is given by your mother and father:nnMr. and Mrs. James T. Smithnrequest the honor of your presencenat the marriage of their daughternMary SuentonRobert John Brownn(etc.)nnIf the wedding is given by you and the groom:nnMary Sue Smithnand Robert John Brownnrequest the honor of your presencenat their marriagen(etc.)nnIf the wedding is given by your mother, and your father is deceased,nnMrs. James T. Smithnrequests the honor of your presencenat the marriage of her daughternMary Suen(etc.)nnIf your mother has remarried, use her present husbands name:nnMr and Mrs. John C. Howardnrequest the honor of your presencenat the marriage of her daughternMary Sue Smithn(etc.)nnIf the wedding is given by your mother, and your parents are divorced, use your mothers maiden name plus your fathers last name:nnMrs. Anne Miller Smithnrequests the honor of your presencenat the marriage of her daughternMary Suen(etc.)nnIf the wedding is given by your father, and either your parents are divorced or your mother is deceased:nnMr. James T. Smithnrequests the honor of your presencenat the marriage of his daughternMary Suen(etc.)nnIf your father has remarried:nnMr. and Mrs. James T. Smithnrequest the honor of your presencenat the marriage of his daughternMary Suen(etc.)nnIf the wedding is given by your divorced parents, and each has remarried,nnMr. and Mrs. James T. SmithnandnMr. and Mrs. Scott .M. Jonesnrequest the honor of your presencenat the marriage of their daughternMary Sue Smithn(etc.)nnHow to Write Wedding InvitesnnWhen deciding how to write your wedding invites, and what style of wording to use, remember that… the honor of your presence… usually refers to a religious or formal service and…. the pleasure of your company… usually refers to a civil or casual service. Consultants at specialty shops are available to help you with the wording.nnThe only difference in wording between military and civilian weddings is in the use of service titles. These titles are used in the following manner:nn- army, marine corps: rank of captain or highern- navy: rank of commodore or highernnTheir rank precedes their name, and the service designation follows on the next line under their name:nnCaptain Robert John BrownnUnited States ArmynnFor officers whose ranks are below those listed above, list their name on a single line, with the line below showing their rank and service designation:nnRobert John BrownnLieutenant, United States NavynnFor military personnel without rank, list their name on a single line, with the line below showing their service designation:nnRobert John BrownnUnited States Marine CorpsnnA bride in the military may omit using her own rank and service designation on the invitations unless she plans to be married in her uniform.nnThe addressing should be handwritten. Traditionally it is done in black ink, but the same color as the printing may also be used.nnThe invitations will come with two sets of envelopes.nnWhen addressing outer envelopes:n- All formal titles such as doctor, captain, and reverend are written out.n- Semi-formal titles such as Ms., Mr., and Mrs. are abbreviated.n- Avenue, street, road, etc., are written out, as are the city and state.nnThe wording on the inner envelope should include the titles and the last names only of the invited adults. If you wish to invite children under the age of eighteen, write their first names on a line below their parents on the inner envelope. Older children in the family should receive their own invitations. The phrase… and family… instead of the childrens name should never be used.nnMr. and Mrs. JohnsonnJohn, Scott, Sarah, and SuennOnce the invitations are addressed, place all the enclosures in the envelopes in this manner:nn- Place the reception card inside the invitation.n- Put the response card in its envelope, and place inside invitationn- Place map, if used, inside invitationn- Place tissue over printing on invitation to prevent smudgingn- Tuck the invitation, folded edge down, into the inner envelope.n- Place the inner envelope into the outer envelope so the writing on the inner envelope faces flap.nnWhen purchasing stamps for mailing, have the invitation, including all enclosures, weighted to determine the correct postage.nnMail all the invitations at the same time, using first-class stamps.nnA stamp must be provided on the return envelope if response cards are used.nnThe following example of response card wording eliminates confusion for your guests and increases the likelihood that they will return the cards on time.nnThe favor of a replynis requested beforenJune first.nnnM_____________________________nwill _________ will not _______ attend.nNumber of persons: _______________nnWhen ordering invitations, also order any other stationery accessories you may need. This includes:nn- Reception cards, showing the time and place of the event.n- Response cards with printed reply-address envelopes, to be enclosed with the invitation so you can plan for the number of guests that will attend the reception.n- Informal thank-you notes, having the name of the bride or the bride and groom on the outside, and blank on the inside.n- Thank-you notes, with a preprinted message to acknowledge when a gift is received.n- Personalized napkins and matches for the guests to use or to keep as souvenirs.n- Announcements, to be sent to those you would have liked to attend your wedding, but who could not.n- Pew cards, rarely used, but appropriate for ultra-formal wedding situations, e.g., with celebrities and dignitaries: the cards may be enclosed with the invitation or sent after the acceptance has been received to ensure tha correct number of seats.n- Wedding programs, showing the order of the service and listing all participants. These can be folded or rolled like a scroll and tied with ribbon. Not only does a printed program serve as a guide to your wedding ceremony, but it is also a keepsake for your guests.nnPrograms can be engraved, printed with offset printing, or produced by word processor on a laser printer, with calligraphy added later.nnThe program covers may be obtained from printers who offer a variety of paper stocks, from manufacturers of wedding invitations who offer several different styles, or from religious supply houses of bookstores who carry appropriate church bulletin covers. Or they can be of your own creation, including a photograph of the bridal couple, special drawing, etc.nnThe program could contain the wedding date, time, and location; the names of all the participants, their positions in the wedding, and their relationship to the bride and groom;; and the order of the ceremony, with any special reading or observances. Expressions of the gratitude from the bridal couple to their families and guests, and any clarifying information regarding the wedding service or reception, could also be included.nnIf possible, have your programs printed only two weeks or so before the wedding, to include any last- minute changes. Allow enough time, however, for proofreading the copy, making any corrections, and receiving delivery of the finished product.nnThank-you notes do not have to be long, but they should be personal. to achieve this goal:nn- Mention your spouses name.n- Mention the gift.n- Tell what you liked about the gift.n- Tell how you will use it.nn- It is better to use the blank thank-you note (informals) rather than the preprinted ones.nn- Thank-you notes that denote the couple as being married – Mr. and Mrs. Robert Brown or Mary Sue and Robert Brown – should be reserved for use after the wedding. For notes sent before the wedding, the printing should read as in these example: Mary Sue Smith and Robert Brown, or Mary Sue and Robert, or Mary Sue Smith.nnIf the engagement is broken after the wedding invitations are in the mail and there is sufficient time, you may send a printed announcement of the change of plans, as in this example:nnMr. and Mrs. _____________nannounce that the marriage of their daughter,n__________ to Mr. ______________,nwill not take place.nnWhen there is not enough time, you will need to phone each invited guest. It is not necessary to reveal reasons for the breakup. Any gifts must be returned to the sender.
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